We had the talk after our first kiss. I sat on his couch and listened to his almost-tearful confession about a past relationship; when I haltingly told him the dirty details of my own makeout sessions with my last boyfriend, he was relieved. “Oh, that’s nothing,” he said, apologizing again for his indiscretions years ago.… Continue reading Let’s Do Better Than Purity Culture
Today's post is a guest post by a dear friend and woman in our community, Stephanie Long. Stephanie shares with us a bit of her story, a look into Scripture, and some great advice on what sex should and should not look like inside of marriage. Consent does not stop once the marriage vows have… Continue reading Your Husband Doesn’t Have a Right to Sex
Church! We just saw white men who are self-proclaimed Christian Nazis and KKK members carrying tiki torches, marching and instilling fear into Virginia, and we did nothing. Not one thing did we do to care for the people who were and are affected by it. Not one thing did we do to edify or… Continue reading Church, Why Are You Afraid of Racism?
Empowerment used to be a weird word for me. It stood for what I saw as weak, limp-wristed, feminine, self-help hype teachers, usually visible to me through cheesy, insipid memes that meant nothing to me. I’m a man, dangit, I don’t need none of that cheerleading stuff! I got a perfectly good, worn-in set of… Continue reading Honoring vs Empowering
In October we will be hosting 16 "Meet Ups" across the United States, Toronto, and Scotland! We hope that you will consider coming out and joining us for an afternoon of coffee and conversation! Ezer Rising Meet Ups will be a great time to meet the people in our online community! We will have a… Continue reading Ezer Rising: Coming to 16 Cities/3 Countries in October! #EzerRisingMeetUps
LOVE. What is love? Today I have seen a lot of people saying to "choose love, not hate" following the white supremacy event in Charlottesville. People saying that speaking about it and drawing attention to it just fuels it. People saying to choose love and not anger. Perhaps, love looks like a lot of different… Continue reading Responding in Love to Charlottesville – What Does Love Look Like?
Often in our society, male partner jealousy is romanticized. When men are aggressive, controlling, and jealous, it is seen as just another way to express their "love" for their partner. This is often portrayed in popular movies, books, and television shows as an attractive quality in men. I have heard women with controlling and jealous… Continue reading Jealousy is Not Romantic – by Charlie Grantham
By Christine Woolgar When I started this series on modesty, I honestly wasn’t expecting it to be so loaded with illustrations from Harry Potter. But I keep coming back to these books because J.K. Rowling has a particular talent for illustrating realities in tangible ways. It means she offers a way for readers to identify… Continue reading Modesty 101: How codes are practised illustrate culture and values
Guest Post by Julie Meyer Taylor I spent the first twenty or so years of my life in an intensive study of the Bible. I attended Christian school where I memorized Bible verses every week, sang hymns every day, and read the Bible as part of our language arts curriculum. My parents read Bible passages at dinner and Bible stories at bedtime. I… Continue reading From Intuition to Conviction: My Life as An Egalitarian – One Woman’s Journey
This is my story. A part of my life that held many mistakes, much pain, and heartache I never knew possible. A part of my life I am not proud of. It is a part of my life that God has redeemed, restored, and forgiven me for as well as brought complete healing to me… Continue reading 13 Signs You Are Probably In An Abusive Relationship
A few months back, a gentleman on Twitter, in the course of an argument with an egalitarian, posited with a note of accusation that, essentially, egalitarians wouldn't approach the doctrine of the Trinity with the same flippancy towards the plain words of scripture as they do with the passages relating to gender roles. That buzzed… Continue reading What God Really Cares About
by Christine Woolgar It might have escaped your notice, but Hogwarts has a dress code. In having a uniform, Hogwarts’ follows mainstream practice in UK primary and secondary schools (that is, those for pupils up to the age of 16). Uniforms certainly differ, but regardless of how a school is funded, they all have… Continue reading Modesty 101: Are dress codes helpful or harmful?
Has anyone else heard from complementarians that it's not the husband's job to make his wife submit to him, that he's just to lead with following Christ and a godly wife will follow? A godly wife will decide what submission to her husband means. The husband doesn’t tell the wife how to submit, and the… Continue reading Focusing on Your Role is Not Enough
Sisterhood. It's a word I hear a lot. A word I love. "Sisterhood" is simply a group of women linked together by a common denominator. To my Christian Social Justice Sisters, I am so grateful for you. I am so grateful for your hearts, your minds, your existence. Mothers, daughters, sisters, grandmothers, friends, soulmates. I… Continue reading Open Letter to the Sisterhood of Social Justice Warriors
On Ezer Rising, we talk a lot about two words that may, or may not, be new or unfamiliar to you. Maybe you have heard them but have no clue what they actually mean. We want to clarify and define the words "Egalitarian" and "Complementarian" for you and help you understand what we mean when… Continue reading Complementarian and Egalitarian: What Does It All Mean?
The Bible is the mirror image we are to look in daily to be reminded who we are and whose we are. It is crucial that our leaders look into this mirror and tell us ALL of what they see. Because these stories are the DNA and legacy the next generation of world Christians will be carrying. I desire the greater church to find their inheritance and identity in Christ more than I was ever given opportunity, as a young woman of color, throughout my biblical pursuit and training. In order to do that, I believe church leaders will need to see themselves as the appointed Storytellers they are. Telling the full story of Jesus that includes women who bore many colors.
Gilderoy Lockhart was immodest - drawing attention to his glory in ways that excluded others. Moses and Jesus however, showed modesty: veiling their glory.
By limiting a girl’s education and teaching her this toxic, oppressive theology, it creates a perfect storm that makes it very difficult for a SAHD to escape—even as a grown woman. By leaving or rejecting this ideology, women (and men) risk losing entire families, church families/support, community with people they have known their whole lives—it is a form of excommunication.
I’d like to talk today about one ramification of equality in marriage that may not come easily to many men coming out of a traditional gender role environment. I’ve certainly had to learn this lesson the hard way, and I’m not even going to pretend to have arrived at a state of enlightenment here – more like a daily war of attrition with laziness. I don’t want to project too much, so I’ll talk to myself here, and maybe folks can follow along if they see themselves in my monologue.
Today I'd like to share some experiences of my own to shed some light on how sometimes women pastors are not treated the same as male pastors. If you are also a woman leader, I would encourage you to share your own stories in the comments below.